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THE BEST ARTICLE ON LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS THAT I’VE EVER READ {AND THAT YOU NEED TO READ TOO}
THE BEST ARTICLE ON LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS THAT I’VE EVER READ {AND THAT YOU NEED TO READ TOO}
Well, it’s Valentine’s Day and what better time to share with you one of the most influential articles I’ve ever read about love & relationships. Mark Manson, our author, decided to poll his own blog audience for advice in the week leading up to his own wedding. To borrow from Mark, “I sent out the call the week before my wedding: anyone who has been married for 10+ years and is still happy in their relationship, what lessons would you pass down to others if you could? What is working for you and your partner? And if you are divorced, what didn’t work previously?” This article was pulled from the overwhelming response Mark received from almost 1,500 people from around the world. The reasons why are not only insightful, but downright relatable to any person in any sort of relationship.
Every single time I’ve read this article, I learn something new about myself, the way I show love, and those relationships close to me, so I’m incredibly excited to share it with you all in the hopes that you find as much inspiration {and dare I say, motivation?} from it as I do. We all know love is a constant ebb and flow of emotions, and even the strongest, healthiest relationships need help & advice sometimes. I have found ways to relate to Mark’s words in numerous ways – from his analogies to his real-life examples from readers, his article is raw and real, and just the reminder we all need sometimes.
I could have easily copy/pasted this entire article simply because there are so many incredible call outs & points being being made {and you might read the below and think that I did!} But, believe it or not, I showed restraint, even when I didn’t want too. With that being said, I highly encourage you, if you have the time, to should read this article in it’s entirety because it may very well change your relationship, and your life.
Below you will find my favorite points from each of Mark’s ‘13 reasons why‘ every relationship can be successful.
Every Successful Relationship is Successful For The Same Exact Reasons
- Be together for the right reasons
- ….everything that makes a relationship “work” (and by work, I mean that it is happy and sustainable for both people involved) requires a genuine, deep-level admiration for each other. Without that mutual admiration, everything else will unravel.
- It’s useful to point out that love, itself, is neutral. It is something that can be both healthy or unhealthy, helpful or harmful, depending on why and how you love someone else and are loved by someone else. By itself, love is never enough to sustain a relationship.
SPACE
- Have realistic expectations about relationships and romance
- There will be days, or weeks, or maybe even longer, when you aren’t all mushy-gushy in-love. You’re even going to wake up some morning and think, “Ugh, you’re still here….” That’s normal! And more importantly, sticking it out is totally worth it, because that, too, will change. In a day, or a week, or maybe even longer, you’ll look at that person and a giant wave of love will inundate you, and you’ll love them so much you think your heart can’t possibly hold it all and is going to burst. Because a love that’s alive is also constantly evolving. It expands and contracts and mellows and deepens. It’s not going to be the way it used to be, or the way it will be, and it shouldn’t be.
- True love—that is, deep, abiding love that is impervious to emotional whims or fancy—is a choice. It’s a constant commitment to a person regardless of the present circumstances. It’s a commitment to a person who you understand isn’t going to always make you happy—nor should they!—and a person who will need to rely on you at times, just as you will rely on them.
That form of love is much harder. Primarily because it often doesn’t feel very good. It’s unglamorous. It’s lots of early morning doctor’s visits. It’s cleaning up bodily fluids you’d rather not be cleaning up. It’s dealing with another person’s insecurities and fears and ideas, even when you don’t want to.
But this form of love is also far more satisfying and meaningful. And, at the end of the day, it brings true happiness, not just another series of highs.
SPACE
- There will be days, or weeks, or maybe even longer, when you aren’t all mushy-gushy in-love. You’re even going to wake up some morning and think, “Ugh, you’re still here….” That’s normal! And more importantly, sticking it out is totally worth it, because that, too, will change. In a day, or a week, or maybe even longer, you’ll look at that person and a giant wave of love will inundate you, and you’ll love them so much you think your heart can’t possibly hold it all and is going to burst. Because a love that’s alive is also constantly evolving. It expands and contracts and mellows and deepens. It’s not going to be the way it used to be, or the way it will be, and it shouldn’t be.
- The most important factor in a relationship is not communication, but respect
- As we scanned through the hundreds of responses we received, my assistant and I began to notice an interesting trend. People who had been through divorces and/or had only been with their partners for 10-15 years almost always talked about communication being the most important part of making things work. Talk frequently. Talk openly. Talk about everything, even if it hurts. And there is some merit to that (which I’ll get to later). But we noticed that the thing people with marriages going on 20, 30, or even 40 years talked about most was respect. My sense is that these people, through sheer quantity of experience, have learned that communication, no matter how open, transparent and disciplined, will always break down at some point. Conflicts are ultimately unavoidable, and feelings will always be hurt. And the only thing that can save you and your partner, that can cushion you both to the hard landing of human fallibility, is an unerring respect for one another, the fact that you hold each other in high esteem, believe in one another—often more than you each believe in yourselves—and trust that your partner is doing his/her best with what they’ve got. Without that bedrock of respect underneath you, you will doubt each other’s intentions. You will judge their choices and encroach on their independence. You will feel the need to hide things from one another for fear of criticism. And this is when the cracks in the edifice begin to appear.
SPACE
- As we scanned through the hundreds of responses we received, my assistant and I began to notice an interesting trend. People who had been through divorces and/or had only been with their partners for 10-15 years almost always talked about communication being the most important part of making things work. Talk frequently. Talk openly. Talk about everything, even if it hurts. And there is some merit to that (which I’ll get to later). But we noticed that the thing people with marriages going on 20, 30, or even 40 years talked about most was respect. My sense is that these people, through sheer quantity of experience, have learned that communication, no matter how open, transparent and disciplined, will always break down at some point. Conflicts are ultimately unavoidable, and feelings will always be hurt. And the only thing that can save you and your partner, that can cushion you both to the hard landing of human fallibility, is an unerring respect for one another, the fact that you hold each other in high esteem, believe in one another—often more than you each believe in yourselves—and trust that your partner is doing his/her best with what they’ve got. Without that bedrock of respect underneath you, you will doubt each other’s intentions. You will judge their choices and encroach on their independence. You will feel the need to hide things from one another for fear of criticism. And this is when the cracks in the edifice begin to appear.
- Talk openly about everything, especially the stuff that hurts
- If something bothers you in the relationship, you must be willing to say it. Saying it builds trust and trust builds intimacy. It may hurt, but you still need to do it. No one else can fix your relationship for you. Nor should anyone else. Just as causing pain to your muscles allows them to grow back stronger, often introducing some pain into your relationship through vulnerability is the only way to make the relationship stronger.
- There can be no secrets. Secrets divide you. Always.
- Learn to discern your partner’s own shady behavior from your own insecurities (and vice-versa). This is hard and will likely require confrontation to get to the bottom of. But in most relationship fights, one person thinks something is completely “normal” and the other thinks it’s really grade-A “fucked up.” It’s often extremely hard to distinguish who is being irrational and insecure and who is being reasonable and merely standing up for themselves. Be patient in rooting out what’s what, and when it’s your big, gnarly insecurity (and sometimes it will be, trust me), be honest about it. Own up to it. And strive to be better.
- Trust is like a china plate. If you drop it and it breaks, you can put it back together with a lot of work and care. If you drop it and break it a second time, it will split into twice as many pieces and it will require far more time and care to put back together again. But drop and break it enough times, and it will shatter into so many pieces that you will never be able to put it back together again, no matter what you do.
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- A healthy relationship means two healthy individuals
- A healthy and happy relationship requires two healthy and happy individuals. Keyword here: “individuals.” That means two people with their own identities, their own interests and perspectives, and things they do by themselves, on their own time.
- A lot is made about “sacrifices” in a relationship. You are supposed to keep the relationship happy by consistently sacrificing yourself for your partner and their wants and needs. There is some truth to that. Every relationship requires each person to consciously choose to give something up at times. But the problem is when all of the relationship’s happiness is contingent on the other person and both people are in a constant state of sacrifice. Just read that again. A relationship based on sacrifices cannot be sustained, and will eventually become damaging to both individuals in it.
SPACE
- Give each other space
- Among the emails, one of the most popular themes was the importance of creating space and separation from one another. Some people are afraid to give their partner freedom and independence. This comes from a lack of trust and/or insecurity that if we give our partner too much space, they will discover they don’t want to be with us anymore. Generally, the more uncomfortable we are with our own worthiness in the relationship and to be loved, the more we will try to control the relationship and our partner’s behaviors. BUT, more importantly, this inability to let our partners be who they are, is a subtle form of disrespect. After all, if you can’t trust your husband to have a simple golfing trip with his buddies, or you’re afraid to let your wife go out for drinks after work, what does that say about your respect for their ability to handle themselves well? What does it say for your respect for yourself? I mean, after all, if you believe a couple after-work drinks is enough to steer your girlfriend away from you, you clearly don’t think too highly of yourself.
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- Among the emails, one of the most popular themes was the importance of creating space and separation from one another. Some people are afraid to give their partner freedom and independence. This comes from a lack of trust and/or insecurity that if we give our partner too much space, they will discover they don’t want to be with us anymore. Generally, the more uncomfortable we are with our own worthiness in the relationship and to be loved, the more we will try to control the relationship and our partner’s behaviors. BUT, more importantly, this inability to let our partners be who they are, is a subtle form of disrespect. After all, if you can’t trust your husband to have a simple golfing trip with his buddies, or you’re afraid to let your wife go out for drinks after work, what does that say about your respect for their ability to handle themselves well? What does it say for your respect for yourself? I mean, after all, if you believe a couple after-work drinks is enough to steer your girlfriend away from you, you clearly don’t think too highly of yourself.
- You and your partner will grow and change in unexpected ways; embrace it
- One theme that came up repeatedly, especially with those married 20+ years, was how much each individual changes as the decades roll on, and how ready each of you have to be to embrace the other partner as these changes occur. One reader commented that at her wedding, an elderly family member told her, “One day many years from now, you will wake up and your spouse will be a different person, make sure you fall in love with that person too.”
- Now, you’re probably reading this and thinking, “Sure, Bill likes sausage now, but in a few years he might prefer steak. I can get on board with that.” No, I’m talking some pretty serious life changes. Remember, if you’re going to spend decades together, some really heavy shit will hit (and break) the fan. Among major life changes people told me their marriages went through (and survived): changing religions, moving countries, death of family members (including children), supporting elderly family members which included going through probate claims, changing political beliefs, even changing sexual orientation, and in a couple cases, gender identification. Amazingly, these couples survived because their respect for each other allowed them to adapt and allow each person to continue to flourish and grow.
SPACE
- Get good at fighting
- “The relationship is a living, breathing thing. Much like the body and muscles, it cannot get stronger without stress and challenge. You have to fight. You have to hash things out. Obstacles make the marriage.” – Ryan
- John Gottman is a hot-shit psychologist and researcher who has spent over 30 years analyzing married couples and looking for keys to why they stick together and why they break up. What Gottman does is he gets married couples in a room, puts some cameras on them, and then he asks them to have a fight. He asks them to pick something they’re having problems with and talk about it for the camera. And from simply analyzing the film for the couple’s discussion (or shouting match, whatever), he’s able to predict with startling accuracy whether a couple will divorce or not. But what’s most interesting about Gottman’s research is that the things that lead to divorce are not necessarily what you think. Successful couples, like unsuccessful couples, he found, fight consistently. And some of them fight furiously.
- He has been able to narrow down four characteristics of a couple that tend to lead to divorces (or breakups). He has gone on and called these “the four horsemen” of the relationship apocalypse in his books. They are:
- Criticizing your partner’s character (“You’re so stupid” vs “That thing you did was stupid”)
- Defensiveness (or basically, blame shifting, “I wouldn’t have done that if you weren’t late all the time”)
- Contempt (putting down your partner and making them feel inferior)
- Stonewalling (withdrawing from an argument and ignoring your partner)
- I think when people talk about the necessity for “good communication” all of the time (a vague piece of advice that everyone says but few people seem to actually clarify what it means), this is what they mean: be willing to have the uncomfortable talks. Be willing to have the fights. Say the ugly things and get it all out in the open.
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- Get good at forgiving
- To me, perhaps the most interesting nugget from Gottman’s research is the fact that most successful couples don’t actually resolve all of their problems. In fact, his findings were completely backwards from what most people actually expect: people in lasting and happy relationships have problems that never completely go away, while couples that feel as though they need to agree and compromise on everything end up feeling miserable and falling apart. To me, like everything else, this comes back to the respect thing. If you have two different individuals sharing a life together, it’s inevitable that they will have different values and perspectives on some things and clash over it. The key here is not changing the other person—as the desire to change your partner is inherently disrespectful (to both them and yourself)—but rather it’s to simply abide by the difference, love them despite it, and when things get a little rough around the edges, to forgive them for it.
- A similar concept seems to be true in relationships: your perfect partner is not someone who creates no problems in the relationship, rather your perfect partner is someone who creates problems in the relationship that you feel good about dealing with.
- And finally, pick your battles wisely. You and your partner only have so many f*cks to give, make sure you both are saving them for the real things that matter.
SPACE
- The little things add up to big things
- “Staying connected through life’s ups and downs is critical. Eventually your kids grow up, your obnoxious brother-in-law will join a monastery and your parents will die. When that happens, guess who’s left? You got it… Mr./Mrs. Right! You don’t want to wake up 20 years later and be staring at a stranger because life broke the bonds you formed before the shitstorm started. You and your partner need to be the eye of the hurricane.” – Brian
- Of the 1,500 responses I got, I’d say about half of them mentioned at some point or another one simple but effective piece of advice: Don’t ever stop doing the little things. They add up. Things as simple as saying, “I love you,” before going to bed, holding hands during a movie, doing small favors here and there, helping with some household chores. Even cleaning up when you accidentally pee on the toilet seat (seriously, someone said that)—these things all matter and add up over the long run.
- This seems to become particularly important once kids enter the picture. The big message I heard hundreds of times about kids: put the marriage first. “Children are worshipped in our culture these days. Parents are expected to sacrifice everything for them. But the best way to raise healthy and happy kids is to maintain a healthy and happy marriage. Good kids don’t make a good marriage. A good marriage makes good kids. So keep your marriage the top priority.” – Susan
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- Sex matters… a LOT
- That was the first time I discovered a truth about relationships: sex is the State of the Union. If the relationship is good, the sex will be good. You both will be wanting it and enjoying it. When the relationship is bad—when there are unresolved problems and unaddressed negative emotions—then the sex will often be the first thing to go out the window.
- But sex not only keeps the relationship healthy, many readers suggested that they use it to heal their relationships. That when things are a bit frigid between them or that they have some problems going on, a lot of stress, or other issues (i.e., kids), they even go so far as to schedule sexy time for themselves. They say it’s important. And it’s worth it. A few people even said that when things start to feel stale in the relationship, they agree to have sex every day for a week. Then, as if by magic, by the next week, they feel great again.
SPACE
- Be practical, and create relationship rules
- The common theme of the advice here was “Be pragmatic.” If the wife is a lawyer and spends 50 hours at the office every week, and the husband is an artist and can work from home most days, it makes more sense for him to handle most of the day-to-day parenting duties. If the wife’s standard of cleanliness looks like a Home & Garden catalog, and the husband has gone six months without even noticing the light fixture hanging from the ceiling, then it makes sense that the wife handles more of the home cleaning duties.
- It’s economics 101: division of labor makes everyone better off. Figure out what you are each good at, what you each love/hate doing, and then arrange accordingly. My wife loves cleaning (no, seriously), but she hates smelly stuff. So guess who gets dishes and garbage duty? Me. Because I don’t give a fuck. I’ll eat off the same plate seven times in a row. I couldn’t smell a dead rat even if it was sleeping under my pillow. I’ll toss garbage around all day. Here honey, let me get that for you.
- On top of that, many couples suggested laying out rules for the relationship. This sounds cheesy, but ultimately, it’s practical. To what degree will you share finances? How much debt will be taken on or paid off? How much can each person spend without consulting the other? What purchases should be done together or do you trust each other to do separately? How do you decide which vacations to go on? Have meetings about this stuff. Sure, it’s not sexy or cool, but it needs to get done. You’re sharing a life together and so you need to plan and account for each person’s needs and resources.
- One person even said that she and her husband have “annual reviews” every year. She immediately told me not to laugh, but that she was serious. They have annual reviews where they discuss everything that’s going on in the household that they like and don’t like and what they can do in the coming year to change it. This sort of stuff sounds lame but it’s what keeps couples in touch with what’s going on with each other. And because they always have their fingers on the pulse of each other’s needs, they’re more likely to grow together rather than grow apart. {BB note – I think this is brilliant and it will be a goal that I try to implement into my own marriage}
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- Learn to ride the waves
- “Two years ago, I suddenly began resenting my wife for any number of reasons. I felt as if we were floating along, doing a great job of co-existing and co-parenting, but not sustaining a real connection. It deteriorated to the point that I considered separating from her; however, whenever I gave the matter intense thought, I could not pinpoint a single issue that was a deal breaker. I knew her to be an amazing person, mother, and friend. I bit my tongue a lot and held out hope that the malaise would pass as suddenly as it had arrived. Fortunately, it did and I love her more than ever. So the final bit of wisdom is to afford your spouse the benefit of the doubt. If you have been happy for such a long period, that is the case for good reason. Be patient and focus on the many aspects of her that still exist that caused you to fall in love in the first place.” – Kevin
From the author: “Exercises like this always amaze me because when you ask thousands of people for advice on something, you expect to receive thousands of different answers. But in both cases now, the vast majority of the advice has largely been the same. It shows you how similar we really are. And how no matter how bad things may get, we are never as alone as we think.”
Continued….”I would end this by summarizing the advice in one tidy section. But once again, a reader named Margo did it far better than I ever could. So we’ll end with Margo:
You can work through anything as long as you are not destroying yourself or each other. That means emotionally, physically, financially, or spiritually. Make nothing off limits to discuss. Never shame or mock each other for the things you do that make you happy. Write down why you fell in love and read it every year on your anniversary (or more often). Write love letters to each other often. Make each other first. When kids arrive, it will be easy to fall into a frenzy of making them the only focus of your life…do not forget the love that produced them. You must keep that love alive and strong to feed them love. Spouse comes first. Each of you will continue to grow. Bring the other one with you. Be the one that welcomes that growth. Don’t think that the other one will hold the relationship together. Both of you should assume it’s up to you so that you are both working on it. Be passionate about cleaning house, preparing meals, and taking care of your home. This is required of everyone daily, make it fun and happy and do it together. Do not complain about your partner to anyone. Love them for who they are. Make love even when you are not in the mood. Trust each other. Give each other the benefit of the doubt always. Be transparent. Have nothing to hide. Be proud of each other. Have a life outside of each other, but share it through conversation. Pamper and adore each other. Go to counseling now before you need it so that you are both open to working on the relationship together. Disagree with respect to each other’s feelings. Be open to change and accepting of differences. Print this and refer to it daily. – Margo
All of the bullet points {and their contents} above have been copy/pasted from Mark’s original article that you can find in its entirety here.
Like I said, Mark and his words, and his readers have inspired me to communicate better, love deeper, fight often, and forgive easily. Little reminders like this, a simple article on the internet, can be just the ticket to appreciating the relationships you have in your life and making the best & finding the joy in a little holiday like Valentines Day 
With or without a significant other, I’m wishing you all a wonderful and fulfilled day.
All my love,
Bridget
Overcoming Trust Issues: Rebuilding Foundations for a Stronger Relationship
Trust is the bedrock of any healthy relationship. It’s the invisible thread that connects two people, allowing for vulnerability, security, and true intimacy. But what happens when that thread frays, or even snaps? Trust issues can be incredibly challenging, leading to anxiety, suspicion, and a constant feeling of unease.
If you and your partner are navigating the choppy waters of trust issues, know that you’re not alone, and that healing is possible. While it takes time, patience, and effort from both sides, rebuilding trust can ultimately lead to a deeper, more resilient connection.
So, how do you begin to mend what feels broken? Here are key strategies for overcoming trust issues and fostering a more secure future together:
1. Acknowledge the Hurt (and the Why)
The first step is to acknowledge that trust has been damaged, and to understand the underlying reasons. Was there a specific betrayal, like infidelity or a broken promise? Or do the trust issues stem from past experiences, perhaps from childhood or previous relationships?
For the Betrayed Partner: Allow yourself to feel the pain, anger, or sadness. Suppressing these emotions will only prolong the healing process. Communicate how the breach of trust has impacted you.
For the Partner Who Broke Trust: Take full responsibility for your actions without making excuses. Understand the gravity of the impact you’ve had. Genuine remorse is crucial for the healing process to begin.
2. Embrace Radical Open Communication
This is perhaps the most vital tool in your arsenal. Trust issues thrive in the shadows of secrecy and assumptions. Open communication means:
Honesty, Even When It's Hard: Both partners must commit to radical honesty, even about uncomfortable truths. This means sharing feelings, fears, and even daily activities if they are a source of suspicion.
Active Listening: Don't just wait for your turn to speak. Truly listen to your partner's concerns without defensiveness. Validate their feelings, even if you don't fully agree with their interpretation.
Transparency: If trust was broken due to deceit, the partner who caused the breach needs to be willing to be transparent. This might mean sharing phone access, social media, or daily schedules for a period, depending on what is needed to rebuild confidence. This isn't about control, but about providing reassurance and demonstrating a commitment to change.
Regular Check-ins: Schedule dedicated time to talk about the trust issues. This prevents resentment from festering and allows for consistent progress.
3. Consistency and Follow-Through Are Key
Words can be empty if not backed by consistent actions. For the partner who broke trust, this means:
Showing Up, Every Time: If you've promised to do something, do it. If you've committed to a change in behavior, stick to it.
Being Predictable (in a Good Way): Reliability builds trust. Be where you say you'll be, and do what you say you'll do.
Patience: Rebuilding trust is not an overnight process. There will be setbacks, and your partner may test your commitment. Remain patient and persistent.
For the partner struggling with trust, consistency in your partner's actions will slowly chip away at your anxieties.
4. Set Clear Boundaries and Expectations
Discuss what needs to happen for trust to be re-established. This might involve:
Specific Actions: Are there specific behaviors that need to stop or start?
Timeframes: While there's no set timeline for healing, you might agree on a period of increased transparency or specific efforts.
Consequences: What happens if the boundaries are violated again? This is about protecting yourself and the relationship.
5. Consider Professional Counseling
Sometimes, trust issues run too deep or are too complex for a couple to navigate on their own. This is where a trained relationship counselor or therapist can be invaluable.
Neutral Third Party: A counselor provides a safe, neutral space for both partners to express themselves without judgment.
Communication Tools: They can teach effective communication strategies and help you navigate difficult conversations.
Identifying Root Causes: A therapist can help uncover the underlying reasons for trust issues, whether they stem from individual baggage or relational dynamics.
Healing Strategies: They can guide you through exercises and techniques specifically designed to rebuild trust and intimacy.
6. Practice Self-Compassion and Patience
For the partner struggling to trust, remember that healing is a journey, not a destination. There will be good days and bad days. Practice self-compassion and don't blame yourself for your feelings.
For the partner working to regain trust, be patient with your partner's process. Their healing timeline is not yours, and pushing them too hard can be counterproductive.
The Road Ahead
Overcoming trust issues is undeniably challenging, but it’s a journey worth embarking on if you value your relationship. By committing to open communication, consistent action, and perhaps the guidance of a professional, you can slowly but surely rebuild the foundation of trust, leading to a stronger, more resilient, and ultimately, more fulfilling partnership.
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Dealing with Breakups: A Guide to Healing and Moving Forward
Breakups can be a challenging and emotional experience, but they also present an opportunity for growth and self-discovery. Coping with a breakup requires a combination of self-care, support, and a focus on personal development. In this write-up, we'll explore ways to navigate the healing process and emerge stronger on the other side.
*Self-Care: Nurturing Your Mind, Body, and Soul*
Self-care is essential during the healing process. By prioritizing your physical, emotional, and mental well-being, you can better cope with the stress and uncertainty of a breakup. Here are a few self-care strategies to consider:
- *Practice mindfulness*: Engage in mindfulness activities such as meditation, deep breathing, or yoga to help calm your mind and reduce stress.
- *Stay active*: Regular exercise can help improve your mood and reduce symptoms of anxiety and depression.
- *Connect with nature*: Spending time in nature can be a great way to clear your mind and gain perspective.
*Seeking Support: Reaching Out to Others*
Seeking support from others is a crucial aspect of the healing process. By surrounding yourself with positive and supportive people, you can gain a new perspective and feel less isolated. Here are a few ways to seek support:
- *Talk to friends and family*: Reach out to loved ones and talk to them about your feelings and experiences.
- *Join a support group*: Connecting with others who have gone through similar experiences can be a great way to find support and guidance.
- *Consider therapy*: Working with a therapist can provide a safe and supportive environment to process your emotions and work through challenges.
*Focusing on Personal Growth: Embracing Change and Opportunity*
A breakup can be a catalyst for personal growth and self-discovery. By focusing on your own development and well-being, you can emerge from the experience stronger and more resilient. Here are a few ways to focus on personal growth:
- *Try new things*: Engage in new activities, hobbies, or interests to challenge yourself and discover new passions.
- *Practice self-reflection*: Take time to reflect on your experiences and identify areas for personal growth and development.
- *Set goals*: Setting goals can help you stay focused and motivated, and provide a sense of direction and purpose.
*Conclusion*
Dealing with a breakup can be a difficult and emotional experience, but it's also an opportunity for growth and self-discovery. By prioritizing self-care, seeking support, and focusing on personal growth, you can navigate the healing process and emerge stronger on the other side. With time, patience, and support, you can heal and move forward, ready to take on new challenges and opportunities.
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Effective Communication in Relationships: Tips for a Stronger Bond
Communication is the foundation of any successful relationship. When both partners can express themselves clearly and listen actively, they can build trust, resolve conflicts, and strengthen their bond. In this blog post, we'll explore some valuable communication tips to help you improve your relationship.
# Active Listening: The Key to Understanding
Active listening is more than just hearing your partner's words. It involves fully engaging with them, understanding their perspective, and responding thoughtfully. Here are some tips for active listening:
- *Give your undivided attention*: Put away distractions like phones or TVs and focus on your partner.
- *Maintain eye contact*: Eye contact shows that you're engaged and interested in the conversation.
- *Avoid interrupting*: Let your partner finish speaking before you respond.
- *Paraphrase and summarize*: Repeat back what you've heard to ensure understanding and show that you're actively listening.
# Expressing Feelings Effectively
Expressing your feelings in a clear and respectful manner is crucial for effective communication. Here are some tips for expressing feelings effectively:
- *Use "I" statements*: Instead of blaming your partner, use "I" statements to express your feelings and thoughts.
- *Be specific*: Clearly state what you're feeling and why.
- *Avoid criticism and judgment*: Focus on your own feelings and experiences rather than criticizing or judging your partner.
- *Show empathy*: Try to understand your partner's perspective and show that you care about their feelings.
# Additional Communication Tips
- *Practice mindfulness*: Being present in the moment can help you communicate more effectively.
- *Use non-verbal communication*: Body language and tone of voice can convey just as much information as words.
- *Avoid assumptions*: Clarify any misunderstandings and ask questions to ensure understanding.
- *Show appreciation*: Express gratitude and appreciation for your partner and your relationship.
# Overcoming Communication Challenges
Every relationship faces communication challenges, but there are ways to overcome them. Here are some tips:
- *Stay calm and patient*: Take a deep breath and try to remain calm, even in difficult conversations.
- *Seek common ground*: Look for areas of agreement and try to find a compromise.
- *Take a break if needed*: If the conversation is becoming too heated, take a break and revisit the issue when you're both calm.
# Conclusion
Effective communication is the key to a strong and healthy relationship. By practicing active listening, expressing feelings effectively, and following additional communication tips, you can build a stronger bond with your partner. Remember to stay calm, patient, and empathetic, and don't be afraid to seek help if you need it. With practice and effort, you can improve your communication skills and strengthen your relationship.
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